Wednesday, March 19, 2014

When you pick a flower, it is no longer connected to the soil and therefore begins to slowly wither away and eventually...

it DIES.

“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation" 
-Osho

OK...Every living atom eventually dies, but if you pluck a flower prematurely, it dies faster.

The disconnection from the natural source of nourishment dehydrates it and expedites the fading of its beauty. No replacement of habitat or supplement of sustenance can revitalize the flower to its natural composition...it just won't ever be the same!

This was the contemplation in my mind after I was told by a man: "I want you all to myself". (LOL) Now despite what his real intentions were, I was immediately flabbergasted/ disgusted because this sounded like a plea for selfish possession to remove me from my world of beauty and try to alter me to fit his needs...unsolicited submission--ugh, I totally ran with the comment!  A lifted upper lip and a walk in the opposite direction later, my mind dissipated to the metaphor about the flower being separated from its thriving habitat...


It is human nature to seek beautiful possessions.As visually inclined creatures, we like to have nice clothes, nice cars, beautiful plants in our homes, attractive partners etc. No one ever wakes up and says "I want an ugly mate" or let me get the ugliest car on the lot. There has to be some element of beauty for us to make a selection, whether it be appearance or an attribute, we naturally crave beauty around us similar to the flower. 

There is nothing wrong with the desire for aesthetic satisfaction. What scares me is when value is lost under the selfish possession of one who cannot reciprocate the natural nourishment for that flower. For example, relationships. Everyone has an innate "shine". There is something about you that makes you, "You". When you meet a person who is self-indulged and all about themselves, or egotistical--only has you to help them, that innate "shine" fades and becomes a source for their satisfaction only. Similarly, when we pluck flowers from a garden and place it in a vase of water inside the house, we do it for our visual pleasure not realizing the detriment caused to the flower as it lacks the natural source of photosynthesis. Therefore relationships should embrace the individual "shine" of each partner where it is at and one should not find it as a reason to change one another or "pluck them from the source of their beauty".

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
--Ernest Hemingway

In essence, if you love something, let it "GROW". Let it bloom in its natural realm, let its beauty radiate...let it be.

-ImJessSayin



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